Sunday, April 11, 2010

Story #273: Great lesson in life 1: Patience

Happy Sunday!

At church today, I realized I love my sunbeams (the 3 and 4 year olds) so much I am going to miss them so so much after we move. Mr. L and I are so privilege to be their teachers and teach them about Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. Every week I get so excited to go to church because I could see their bright, happy faces. I see bright future in each and every one of them because they are all raised by "goodly parents" (1Nephi) and you can already tell from their obedience and kind hearts that they will become wonderful people one day.

Teaching the sunbeams not only brought me great joy, it taught me to be patient too. I have grown to have so much more patience with little children. However, I still struggle with being patience with a lot of things. I get impatient when the lines get too long. I got mad easily when I am driving, I can feel my heart rate increasing when I see others doing something rude, and I fail to be slow to judge and am quick to criticize sometimes. Even though I kept telling myself I need to learn patience over and over, my mind would be clouded by anger and annoyance far too quicker than my conscience would remind me to be patient.

Sometimes arguments break out because I was the one who starts raising my voice. I am so grateful to have a husband who is so patient with me and often reminds me to be patient. Recently, Mr.L told me about the talk given by President Uchtdorf (Continue in Patience) at the general priesthood meeting during the General Conference week. I finally had the time to sit down and read the talk on the church website today and it was indeed a GREAT talk. It gave me a new perspective about patience and helped me to understand what patience really is.

Below are some of my favorite quotes of his talk, I hope they can help you if you are struggling with patience like I do.

--"Patience—the ability to put our desires on hold for a time—is a precious and rare virtue. We want what we want, and we want it now. Therefore, the very idea of patience may seem unpleasant and, at times, bitter.

Nevertheless, without patience, we cannot please God; we cannot become perfect. Indeed, patience is a purifying process that refines understanding, deepens happiness, focuses action, and offers hope for peace."

--"Our Heavenly Father knows what good parents come to understand over time: if children are ever going to mature and reach their potential, they must learn to wait."

--"...patience was far more than simply waiting for something to happen—patience required actively working toward worthwhile goals and not getting discouraged when results didn’t appear instantly or without effort."

--"...patience is not passive resignation, nor is it failing to act because of our fears. Patience means active waiting and enduring. It means staying with something and doing all that we can—working, hoping, and exercising faith; bearing hardship with fortitude, even when the desires of our hearts are delayed. Patience is not simply enduring; it is enduring well!"

--"Impatience, on the other hand, is a symptom of selfishness. It is a trait of the self-absorbed. It arises from the all-too-prevalent condition called “center of the universe” syndrome, which leads people to believe that the world revolves around them and that all others are just supporting cast in the grand theater of mortality in which only they have the starring role."

--"As the Lord is patient with us, let us be patient with those we serve. Understand that they, like us, are imperfect. They, like us, make mistakes. They, like us, want others to give them the benefit of the doubt.

Never give up on anyone. And that includes not giving up on yourself."

--"Every one of us is called to wait in our own way. We wait for answers to prayers. We wait for things which at the time may appear so right and so good to us that we can’t possibly imagine why Heavenly Father would delay the answer...I know for sure that the promises of the Lord, if perhaps not always swift, are always certain."

--"knowledge and understanding come at the price of patience."

--"Often the deep valleys of our present will be understood only by looking back on them from the mountains of our future experience. Often we can’t see the Lord’s hand in our lives until long after trials have passed. Often the most difficult times of our lives are essential building blocks that form the foundation of our character and pave the way to future opportunity, understanding, and happiness."

--"Patience means staying with something until the end. It means delaying immediate gratification for future blessings. It means reining in anger and holding back the unkind word. It means resisting evil, even when it appears to be making others rich."

--Patience means accepting that which cannot be changed and facing it with courage, grace, and faith. It means being “willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon [us], even as a child doth submit to his father.”8 Ultimately, patience means being “firm and steadfast, and immovable in keeping the commandments of the Lord”9 every hour of every day, even when it is hard to do so. In the words of John the Revelator, “Here is the patience of the saints: here are they that keep the commandments of God, and . . . faith [in] Jesus.”

--"Patience means to abide in faith, knowing that sometimes it is in the waiting rather than in the receiving that we grow the most."

I hope that we can all learn to be patient little by little until we no longer have to struggle with it. The world will definitely be a much better place to live in if everyone can have a little bit more patience. It needs to start with me.

This Chinese word means "Patience." I remember writing this word over and over in elementary school for the weekly chinese calligraphy homework. I need to get one for my future home.

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